by Mark Pitstick MA, DC

If you’ve not already, please read . . .

  1. ‘The Great News‘ (article #19 at SoulProof.com/Articles)
  2. ‘Eight Developments for Widespread Conscious Living Now’ (#125)
  3. Greater Reality LIVING Program: Integrating ‘The 8 Developments’ Into Your Daily Life (#72)
  4. Greater Reality HEALING Program: Journeying FROM Deeply Grieving TO Brightly Shining (#82)

The evidence-based information and holistic resources outlined in these articles will help you to:

  • realize your true nature as an eternal being of consciousness / life-force / energy 
  • receive guidance and assistance from highly evolved energies and Source / The Light
  • heal old wounds, release lower energies, and update erroneous teachings
  • create the greatest life YOU have envisioned (YOU = your higher self / soul)
  • help others by sharing your greatest gifts
  • make our world a better place

As enough people do this, widespread personal and planetary change will naturally unfold. 

 

Optimal Grieving: 7 Keys for Moving FROM Deep Mourning TO Healing and Transformation

Human emotions are so rich and can seem overwhelming after a loved one changes worlds.  In this article, I’ll share seven simple steps to moving out of deep and prolonged grieving.  Many people have found that these keys lighten and abbreviate their mourning when a beloved person or pet passes on.

I’ll refer to the five stages of grief system of Elisabeth Kubler-Ross MD: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.  I also recommend looking at the Map of Consciousness by David Hawkins MD, PhD.  Hawkins’ objective measures show why it’s so important to:

A. Focus on higher-energy emotions and ways of being such as love, peace, joy, gratitude, enthusiasm, enlightenment and others that help you heal and transform.

B. Minimize your focus on lower-energy emotions and ways of being such as fear, anger, guilt, grief, shame, and hopelessness.

To learn more about this topic, see article #108 Higher Energies, Emotions, and Ways of Being.

When your predominant thoughts, words, and actions align with those in list (A), your life can feel heavenly no matter what is going on around you.  For example, when a loved one graduates from earth school, you can feel appreciation for your time together, realize you’ll see each other again, and transform yourself for the better.  See article #41 to learn more about this A.R.T. Technique.

Seven keys for optimal grieving, healing, and transforming . . .  

  1. Loving support from grief support groups and those who are on the path of accepting a loved one’s transition. Helping Parents Heal is an excellent example of a more enlightened grief support group that focuses on list (A) above.  Lean on caring and open-minded family, friends, church members, and others who can help.  These resources can assist all five stages of grief as you meet with others who have moved through them.  For more information, see article #3 When a Loved One’s Earthly Body Dies at SoulProof.com
  2. Holistic health-care team with an integrative medical doctor who uses natural methods whenever possible, psychological and/or pastoral counselor, and chiropractic physician and/or acupuncturist who uses whole food nutrition and energy-release work. These approaches fine-tune your body, brain, and consciousness so you can remember The Great News listed before this article.  Having a holistic health-care team also minimizes or prevents using pharmaceutical drugs that may have disastrous side-effects such as increased suicidal thoughts and actions.  For more information, see articles # 32 Nutrition-Based Healing and #87 Natural Health Care.
  3. Centering practices such as meditation, prayer, yoga, and time in nature can help quiet the brain so you remember the big picture of life.  (article #77 Centering Practices)
  4. Regularly release lower-energies and emotions to create an opening for higher ones. The Holistic Breathing Technique, as described in article #70, is very powerful and safe.  Primal release methods of yelling into a pillow, pounding a mattress, or burying a list of fears can also help.
  5. Use the Ask Your Soul, G.O.D., and Angels Technique to access inner wisdom and guidance from your Real Self, The Light, and her spiritual support team. To learn more about this extraordinary approach, see article #71/
  6. Evidential medium sessions can help you more deeply know that your ‘departed’ loved one is truly alive, well, and still an important part of your family. To learn how to find a skilled medium whose abilities have been evaluated under double blind conditions, see article #6 Evidential Mediums)
  7. When you are ready, the Facilitated After Death Communication Technique can help you develop a different but very real relationship with your dear one in the next phase of life. To learn more about this amazing method that I designed, see article #9 Visiting ‘Departed’ Loved Ones Now.

These core ways to heal and transform can help after any tragedy.  Adversity can be a potent wake-up call to remember who you really are, why you’re here, and Who walks beside you always.  Many people have found their lives have more joy, love, and peace after using these steps.

Having to reach down deep when a loved one passes on can remind you that life and love are eternal.  The more deeply you know that, the more your life can become a magnificent and fulfilling demonstration of how awakened persons can live no matter what is going on around them.

Addendum . . . 

Grieving is a natural and understandable reaction when a dear one passes on.  However, understanding more about the big picture of life / the nature of reality often lessens and shortens deep grieving.  In addition, knowing more about how life is set up can help you find meaning to any loss or challenge.  You can better find the silver linings, grow spiritually, and bless others.  One way to begin this process is to examine your fears versus evidence-based information that is now available.  I’ve done this below for some common fears that block a person from handling challenges optimally and fully engaging in life.

(All articles listed below are at SoulProof.com/Articles.)

Common fears versus evidence-based understandings about the nature of reality. . .

Death . . .
Fear: Life ends after bodily death.

Reality: Your life, and that of your loved ones, existed before human birth and continues after death of the human form.

Evidence: Articles #1 Scientific Evidence for Life After Death , 60 Clinical Evidence, 115 Firsthand Experience Evidence


Seeing loved ones who have passed on . . .
Fear: You’ll never see them again.

Reality: Contact can occur between loved ones while you are on earth and after you pass on.

Evidence: Articles #1 Scientific Evidence for Postmaterial Communication, 6 Evidential Mediums, 17 Spiritually Transformative Experiences, 28 ADCs, 35 SoulPhone Project

Religious related concerns . . .
Fear: My loved one might end up in hell because he / she ___. (Fill in the blank with your area of concern, for example, passed on by suicide, wasn’t baptized, wasn’t saved, etc.)

Reality: We each are integral and beloved parts of Source Energy right now.  G.O.D. is love, peace, and understanding; as such, the above fears are without basis.

Evidence: Articles #13 Nature of Creator, 16 Spiritual Teachings, 71 Ask Your Soul, 73 Angels, 107 The Afterlife

Can’t survive being away from my ‘departed’ loved one . . .
Fear: You will lapse into uncontrollable depression, anxiety, and attempt suicide.

Reality: You have much more control than you suspect and much help is available for you.  In addition, you and your loved one may indeed be together right now in another time / space slice of life.

Evidence: Articles #5 Considering Suicide, 12 Fine-Tuning Myself, 38 Holistic Solutions, 51 Meditation, 66 Relationships for More Evolved Persons, 75 Multilocation, 87 Natural Health Care, 89 Prayers, 100 Enlightenment, 108 Higher Energies, Emotions, and Ways of Being

God took my loved one away . . .
Fear: Creator is a judgmental and selfish dictator who arbitrarily decides who dies and how.

Reality: Major events during an earthly experience are often pre-planned.  Good evidence shows that the timing and means of dying is set up for good reasons that we can’t remember or fathom from our limited human perspective.  You didn’t cause the death of your dear one’s human form by something you did or didn’t do. The timing and meaning of a dear one’s passing involves many more factors than you can imagine.

Evidence: Articles #13, Nature of G.O.D., 25 Pre-Birth Planning, 68 Big Picture of Life, 78 Did God Take My Loved One?, 82 FROM Bereaved TO Shining Light,

Poor quality of your life after a loved one changes worlds . . .
Fear: My life will never be happy and peaceful again.  Other relationships will suffer and may end.  I will suffer with mental and physical symptoms and never feel great again.  I need alcohol and drugs to feel good or block the pain.

Reality: Whether that happens or not depends, in large part, on what you choose.  We each create the quality of our lives by our collective thoughts, words, and actions.  You can always decide — no matter what is happening to or around you — to focus on higher-energy emotions and ways of being: love, peace, joy, gratitude, compassion, enthusiasm, enlightenment, and others.   In each moment, you can reach for the highest feeling thought.  Many others have done this and you can to.

Evidence: Articles #2 and/or 3 When a Loved One Changes Worlds; 19 ‘The Great News’; 62 I’ll Still Be Sad But Not As Much; 64 Drugs, Alcohol, and Greater Reality Living

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Thank you for telling others about this article!  Your life, and that of others around you, will be more enriched when you:  

  1. read the article again so you really know it.
     
  2. discuss with close family and friends to more deeply internalize it.
     
  3. take action steps that seem right for you.
     
  4. share it with others via social media, discussion groups, and other ways.

Hugs, love, blessings, and let it shine!
Mark

Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
author, lecturer, counselor, and holistic chiropractic physician; spokesperson, research assistant, and strategic planner for the SoulPhone Project; founder of Greater Reality Living, Healing, Helping, and Sharing Programs

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Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is a master’s clinical psychologist, holistic chiropractic physician, and clinical nutritionist.  He has also helped others in pastoral counseling and suicide prevention / education settings.  His goal is to help you know and show that this earthly experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst eternity. 

To learn more about the Greater Reality LIVING, HEALING, HELPING, and SHARING Programs, visit ‘Greater Reality Programs’ top tab at SoulProof.com and SoulPhone.org.  Also see  articles #19, 72, 82, 119, 122, and 125 at SoulProof.com/Articles.

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Note: This article is intended as a reference source, not to replace professional treatment for physical, emotional, or mental problems.  The author disclaims any liability arising directly or indirectly from the voluntary use of action steps discussed in article. 

I created this article while ‘wearing the hat’ of a clinician, counselor, and educator.  My statements are based upon some scientific research; much clinical and experiential evidence; my personal experiences; and my best current understandings.  This program does not reflect my roles with the SoulPhone Project since those require solid scientific data for all statements.