by Mark Pitstick MA, DC
If you’ve not already, please read . . .
- ‘The Great News‘ (article #19 at SoulProof.com/Articles)
- ‘Eight Developments for Widespread Conscious Living Now’ (#125)
- Greater Reality LIVING Program: Integrating ‘The 8 Developments’ Into Your Daily Life (#72)
- Greater Reality HEALING Program: Journeying FROM Deeply Grieving TO Brightly Shining (#82)
The evidence-based information and holistic resources outlined in these articles will help you to:
- realize your true nature as an eternal being of consciousness / life-force / energy
- receive guidance and assistance from highly evolved energies and Source / The Light
- heal old wounds, release lower energies, and update erroneous teachings
- create the greatest life YOU have envisioned (YOU = your higher self / soul)
- help others by sharing your greatest gifts
- make our world a better place
As enough people do this, widespread personal and planetary change will naturally unfold.
Soulmates
by Mark Pitstick MA, DC
I first heard the term ‘soulmate’ in high school during the late 1960’s. The radio repetitively played teenage-angst songs that relayed a grim message for those going through heartbreak: you only have one true love, only one real soulmate.
I remember thinking that wasn’t a very wise set-up. Given the chances of meeting one person from among the 8 billion people on this planet, what if you never met your one-and-only? What if he / she died at a young age and you never got to meet? What if your special person passed on soon after you met as in the popular movie Love Story? What if you finally met, but one or both of you were already married?
Just one true love, one soulmate, for each of us?! Are we to believe that’s the best an all knowing, all loving, and all powerful Creator can do? I didn’t think so then and am even more certain of it now.
For many people, the word ‘soulmate’ is strongly anchored to mean an ideal person with whom you have a relationship that includes romance, love, trust, and all other desirable factors. Some believe there is just one ‘twin flame’ soulmate. That’s defined as a person who came to earth with only half of their soul; as such, they crave a reunion with another person who embodies their other half. Others think, presumably based on their deep feelings of closeness and love, that their one true soulmate could be a parent, sibling, child, or even a pet.
None of these definitions of soulmate fit with the collective evidence about this topic.
The existence of soulmates is reported by some evidential mediums, near death experiencers, and cross-cultural spiritual traditions. My views about soulmates are also influenced by common sense / philosophical views about how a fair and loving cosmos would be set up. However, I primarily base my beliefs about soulmates on the clinical findings of Michael Newton PhD. Dr. Newton founded the Life Between Livestechnique after conducting thorough evidence-based studies of non-earthly realms. His sessions involved four-hour long and very deep hypnotic regressions to access the time before coming to earth.
Dr. Newton conducted this pioneering work for over twenty-five years before sharing his findings with the world. He facilitated sessions with over 7,000 clients from around the world during his thirty-five-year career. As described in his books Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls, there was a very high degree of consistency about specific details from these clients.
Ann Clark, PhD, RN co-authored Wisdom of Souls with Dr. Newton. A certified Life Between Lives (LBL) facilitator, Dr. Clark is the former Director of Research for the Newton Institute. In a personal correspondence in 2019, she stated: “To date, approximately 65,000 LBL sessions have been conducted worldwide in 48 countries and in 21 different languages. Findings about otherworldly realms have remained consistent with clients from different cultures, ethnicities, and religions.” (To learn more about this fascinating topic, see article #98 Life Between Lives Sessions.)
What did Dr. Newton conclude about soulmates?
Based on extensive clinical research by himself and other trained therapists, Newton said that we each have 25 or so ‘primary soulmates’ – people / souls with whom you’ve had very close connections in different space-time experiences. These beloved kindred spirits may, for example, assist your earthly experience by playing the role of significant other, child, or best friend. These are the people on your soul team with whom you meet with on an ongoing basis. This may especially be the case after completing a visit like the one you are experiencing now on earth.
The term ‘secondary soulmates’ refers to a greater number of people who play lesser roles in your life. These souls may serve as cast members to be your parents, siblings, and grandparents. Other examples include a friend in school that you lost track of, a first love relationship that didn’t last, a special caregiver during a long illness or before you change worlds, etc.
Finally, there are even more ‘tertiary soulmates’ who are “less close” but fulfill important roles in your life. (I put quotation marks around less close because the collective evidence indicates that all people and nature are sacredly interconnected and essentially one.) They may serve as cast and crew in this earthly play by being cousins, acquaintances, and fulfilling temporary roles.
(Note: My examples of soulmate levels and roles they may play are generalizations. For some people, a beloved cousin may be a primary soulmate while a significant other is a tertiary one.)
Whether they are primary, secondary, or tertiary, all of these soulmates – and beloved postmaterial pets – will likely be there to greet you after your earthly body dies. As you awaken to the big picture of life, you will hopefully realize that they were often / always very near – especially when you needed them.
Despite the common view that soulmate relationships are always or usually perfect, that’s actually not the case. Dr. Wayne Dyer said that soulmates may be people who can really push your buttons and I agree. This view makes more sense when you remember the primary reasons that souls usually come to a place like earth: learn, grow, serve others, share love, enjoyment, and expand your awareness. I define ‘enjoyment’ as experiencing all the beauty, wonder, richness, pleasure, entertainment, and more during this earthly experience.
(Notice that being totally safe from bodily illness and death is not on this list. Having optimal health and wellness is ideal but the body may develop maladies due to the long list of physical, mental, and emotional stressors on this planet. There’s also that silly little aging process that occurs no matter how well you care for yourself. Also realize that having it easy all the time is also not on this list. For those who want that, why bother coming to earth?)
Here’s another important distinction about soulmates and possible demanding or even abusive interactions with them. While on earth, you can only sense a fraction of who and what a person really is. A person in your life who appears to be a horrible person may, actually, be playing a role that is just what you – as an eternal being of energy – needs. This may be difficult for you to imagine until you revisit past relationships and consider what deep benefits arose from them. For example, my first big love who ‘broke my heart’ caused me to look at life in entirely different and expansive ways. As a result, every aspect of my life is magnificent. I also have helped many people in ways not possible without that ‘tragic’ breakup.
Again, people who rock your world may actually be soulmates who – upon your preplanned soul-level request – played those roles to motivate and awaken you. They shook you to your core and helped you look at life more deeply. That helps you remember who you are, why you’re here, Who walks beside you always, and how you can enjoy the greatest life of your dreams. Does that sound like it might be worth temporary pain and suffering? Of course! To learn more, see article #67 Contrast Souls.
Here are my answers to two common questions I’ve received about this topic:
Q: I’ve had repeated dreams about being with a guy that I’ve never met while on earth. The dreams seem so very real at the time. Any ideas what this is about?
A: Despite the repetition, your dreams may have no meaning or they might just reflect your desire for an ideal relationship. However, given the repetition AND the vivid nature of your recurrent dreams, they could be ‘spiritual visits’ with a soulmate that occur while your earthly body sleeps. You two may know each other in another time-space slice of life, but haven’t met in this one. You might meet later, or perhaps he is another realm and an earthly relationship isn’t part of your soul plan. (To learn more about that concept, see article #25 Pre-Birth Planning: Did I REALLY Choose All This?!)
Before you go to sleep, say a prayer and set an intention to communicate with this unknown person while awake and/or dreaming. In either case, when you visualize him, ask who he is and what messages he brings. It may take some practice to gather more information, but it could be interesting and instructive. Using my Ask Your Soul, Angels, and G.O.D. technique might assist your exploration about this.
Q: I’ve NEVER had a happy and loving relationship. Why do other people have soulmates but I don’t?
A: Your inner self knows the answers to that understandable question. To start with, I recommend changing your focus FROM ‘Why do other people have soulmates and love, but I don’t?’ TO ‘How can I develop wonderful and loving soulmate relationships?’ I recommend these two audio products . . .
- Holistic Breathing Technique to release lower energies and emotions such as sadness, loneliness, anger, resentment, self-blame, etc. Use this for one month before adding #2 but continue the breathing sessions as recommended in the introduction.
- Ask Your Soul, Angels, and G.O.D. to access your and their wisdom about how you can attract loving and fulfilling relationships.
In addition, take relevant action steps after reading articles #66 Optimal Relationships for More Evolved People, and #23 Are You More Evolved and Sensitive / Empathic? I recommend these because, in my experience, a common underlying cause for a lack of relationships is that the person is more evolved and sensitive. That makes it tough to relate to ‘ordinary earthlings’ and necessitates meeting people who embody more advanced energies / souls.
Finally, leave room for the mystery, the X-factor, operative in life. You may not have experienced a soulmate relationship for good reasons. Perhaps you had one or more in another time-space but didn’t honor them. Your current challenge can help you appreciate them more. Perhaps this is a pre-set spiritual challenge to make you search deeper for meaningful answers to life’s biggest questions. Only you can answer these questions.
My Pre-Birth Planning Technique can help you identify if you designed the potential for your lack of relationships and why. If so, you can then explore how to improve every aspect of your life including loving relationships.
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I hope this article helps you realize that you have many soulmates who play the roles of key family members, friends, and significant others. They allow you to have very meaningful relationships now and throughout your life. Remember, too, that you have a wealth of soulmates and highly evolved beings – angels, guides, master teachers, and others – who are also there to love, support, and guide you. To learn more, see article #73 Angels and Higher Energy Assistance.
It’s important to NOT hold limiting beliefs that you have only one true love and, if you lose him / her, that’s it. Some people benefit from ‘secondary gains’ and spend the rest of their life seeking pity versus getting back in the game and finding another love. As the old saying goes, ‘There’s more than one fish in the sea.’
Remember . . . you are the director, producer, and lead actor in this play called your earthly experience. As such, your thoughts, words, and actions create the quality of relationships and everything else in your life. That’s why it’s so important to find people who are on a similar wavelength as you, kindred spirits who form your tribe. (Article #66 Optimal Relationships for More Evolved People describes how to find them and expand your circle of dear ones in your life.)
By the way, I had a number of relationships after my ‘first and only true love soulmate’ break-up. They ranged from fair to very good but none were outstanding like I knew was possible. Finally, at age 52, a relationship began that is beyond outstanding . . . it’s magnificent in every way 18 years later. I wish this for everyone but know that it may take time to become an energetic match, attract, and make space for it.
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Thank you for telling others about this article! Your life, and that of others around you, will be more enriched when you:
- read the article again so you really know it.
- discuss with close family and friends to more deeply internalize it.
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Hugs, love, blessings, and let it shine!
Mark
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
author, lecturer, counselor, and holistic chiropractic physician; spokesperson, research assistant, and strategic planner for the SoulPhone Project; founder of Greater Reality Living, Healing, Helping, and Sharing Programs
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Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is a master’s clinical psychologist, holistic chiropractic physician, and clinical nutritionist. He has also helped others in pastoral counseling and suicide prevention / education settings. His goal is to help you know and show that this earthly experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst eternity.
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