When a Loved One's Earthly Body Is Murdered . . .

by Mark Pitstick MA, DC

If you’ve not already, please read . . .

1. ‘The Great News‘ (article #19 at SoulProof.com/Articles)
   
2. ‘Eight Developments for Widespread Conscious Living Now’ (#125)
   
3. Greater Reality LIVING Program: Integrating ‘The 8 Developments’ Into Your Daily Life (#72)
   
4. Greater Reality HEALING Program: Journeying FROM Deeply Grieving TO Brightly Shining (#82)

The evidence-based information and holistic resources outlined in these articles will help you to:

• realize your true nature as an eternal being of consciousness / life-force / energy 
• receive guidance and assistance from highly evolved energies and Source / The Light
• heal old wounds, release lower energies, and update erroneous teachings
• create the greatest life YOU have envisioned (YOU = your higher self / soul)
• help others by sharing your greatest gifts
• make our world a better place

As enough people do this, widespread personal and planetary change will naturally unfold. 

When a Loved One’s Body Is Murdered

I am very sorry for all the pain, sadness, and other difficult emotions you likely feel when the physical body of your loved one is murdered.  

No one could blame you if you spent the rest of your days feeling anger, bitterness, severe grief, desire for revenge, and other lower energy emotions.  However, some people whose loved ones passed on via murder have taken another path. They found ways to consciously choose higher energy emotions while, at the same time, feeling pain and sadness.

It feels horrible when you can’t physically see, hug, and hear your dear ones.  The shocking reality of that can be magnified when they change worlds by murder.  Those hellish feelings make it seem your only recourse is to feel anger, hopelessness, desire revenge, etc.  However, deeply knowing the information on the first two pages of this article helps you remember they are still very much alive and well.

You haven’t really ‘lost’ your loved ones: they graduated from earth school because their lessons and goals were completed.  Murder was their ticket back Home and the next phase of life.  You will see them again and can enjoy a different but very meaningful relationship with them now.

You deserve to feel happy and healthy again, and the world needs your brightest light.  Your loved ones are in a realm predominated by peace, joy, gratitude, love, enthusiasm, and other wonderful energies / ways of being.  They want you to remember life’s big picture and also feel those higher energy emotions more and more each day.

When understood and acted upon, even a little bit, the following keys can help you survive one day at a time and lighten your grieving.  Eventually – if that is your intent – you can even heal, transform, find silver linings that accompany tragedies, and share them with others.  Depending on your current stage of grief, that may sound impossible to you.  Many people have demonstrated it is possible and shown the way.

1.  Focus on the good news.  Read articles #1 and 60 at SoulProof.com so you know life continues after bodily death. Then, depending on your relationship to the person, read article # 2 or 3.  In a nutshell, no matter how the body of your loved one died:

• They are very much alive and well right now.  Death is not an end, just a transition to the next part of forever.
• You can definitely see each other again and don’t have to wait until you die to enjoy a heavenly reunion.(articles #9 and 6)
• They likely were evolved souls who didn’t need a long earthly experience.
• It wasn’t God’s decision that your loved one passed on via murder.And you weren’t being punished by God for something you did or didn’t do.  (see more about this below)
• Your loved one’s transition by murder will quite likely touch people more deeply than if, for example, she died from a peanut allergy.Seeming tragedies can shake up and wake up people from spiritual amnesia.
• You need to take care of yourself and have a holistic health care team to get your through this optimally.The death of a loved one’s human form by murder is a horrible shock to the body, especially the brain and endocrine system.  It’s vital to reset, strengthen, and balance yourself.  (article #12)

2. Your loved one didn’t suffer as much as you might think.  Good evidence indicates that the consciousness of a person may disengage from the body just before a fatal injury.  Medically, this is considered physiological shock; spiritually / energetically, it’s considered grace and common sense.  I’ve interviewed a number of people who were shot, stabbed, or fell from great heights.  All of them said it initially just felt like a punch and that was it.  The essence of a person knows when an injury will be fatal; there are no good reasons to stick around and experience the entire impact.

When death occurred, your loved one’s awareness was very likely watching impassively from above.  They were probably much more concerned about you than the demise of the physical shell.  Why?  They were already seeing more clearly that no one really dies.  From this wider perspective, they could see that their physical bodies were just temporary vehicles that were no longer needed.

I hope this stops you from tormenting yourself that your loved one suffered horribly.  Even if they were speaking or screaming at the time of death, their real selves were already flying away and not feeling what you might assume.

3. Murder is a ticket back Home.
There are only six ways that a person can move on to the next page in Life’s never-ending saga: old age (natural causes), unknown causes, terminal illness, fatal accident, suicide, and murder. From a limited earthly perspective, all of these are horrible – especially when they occur with a young person. But from a greater reality viewpoint, the method of death is inconsequential.  How else can soul / consciousness inhabiting a younger body move into the next phase of life except by what appears to be a senseless tragedy?

Although you may not understand it now, there is meaning behind the timing and way your loved one died.  For example, I didn’t write this article until I received a letter from a mother whose son was stabbed in the heart.  Her description of helplessly watching him pass on was difficult for even me to read.  Many people will be comforted and informed by this article.  From an enlightened perspective, her son got a return trip back Home AND made a hugely positive impact.  Not a bad deal when you remember that death is an optical delusion.

4. No one is alone at the time of death.
Sometimes loved ones appear to be alone at the time of passing and that, of course, can haunt family members and friends. However, good evidence shows that their higher energy assistants – angels, guides, master teachers, and soulmates – are right there at every moment. So is the Light / the Ground of Being / Great Spirit.  No one ever ‘dies’ alone.

After the physical body perished, your loved ones were lovingly accompanied at every step into the afterlife.  They enjoyed a wonderful reunion and were greeted by dear family, friends, and pets who passed on earlier.

Upon learning this, the question understandably arises: ‘Why didn’t the angels, guides, and others prevent the murder of my loved one?’  We can’t know all of the factors involved, but the most common reasons include:

• Higher energy assistants often do intervene when doing so is in alignment with the soul’s plan.
• Although loved ones may be young in earth-years, they may be advanced souls who didn’t need a long earthly experience. Evolved beings sometimes volunteer out of love to help beginner souls. That may include learning that murder is not something that should be done.  Less evolved souls can be like children learning how to walk.  They fall down many times – as we all have – before learning to follow the Golden Rule.
• It was time for the loved one to move to the next phase of forever.
• We live in a free will universe.  Perhaps higher energy assistants tried to prevent the murder but, for a variety of possible reasons, that was the course chosen.
• If angels prevented every “sad and difficult” event, that would negate reasons for visiting earth and experiencing challenges.
• The horror of a loved one’s murder can motivate family and friends to learn, grow, and serve more deeply. For example, the abusive death of a three-year-old boy when I worked in hospitals in the mid-70s was largely responsible for the service I’ve provided to many thousands of people since then.      
  

5. God isn’t punishing you for something you did or didn’t do.
Some people suffer needlessly because they believe archaic and inaccurate religious teachings. Contrary to images that surfaced around 600 B.C., God is not a huge guy in the sky who unilaterally decides who dies when and how.  (article #13)

More contemporary evidence indicates that Source is not distant or separate from us.  We each are important and beloved parts of this phenomenon right now.  Decisions about the timing and manner of crossing over are ideally made by the person involved in conjunction with wise guidance from higher energy assistance and One Mind.  But, for a variety of reasons, sometimes they aren’t.

On a similar topic, I hope you are not punishing yourself for what you could or should have done to prevent the murder.  It’s natural for family and friends to blame themselves for not protecting their loved ones.  Living in guilt and self-blame can’t change the past, but it can make your life feel like hell until you accept what happened and feel peaceful again.

6. Inhale the good, exhale the bad.
When you are ready, you can release grief, hopelessness, and sadness with the Holistic Breathing Technique.  This powerful method helps you retrieve stuck energy, heal deep wounds, and better remember the big picture of life.  It’s one of the most effective ways I know to recall who you and your loved one really are.  And that, in turn, helps you gain a better perspective about what happened and how you can optimally respond.

7. Forgive the murderer.
Yes, I know, it’s easier said than done. I’ve received angry replies from people consumed with hatred and revenge for even suggesting it is possible.  Others are obsessed with finding the murder or extending the prison sentence.  I can understand their feelings and might have the same reaction if it happened to one of my loved ones.  Definitely no judgment here.

However, I know other people who have forgiven and focused more on the good things in their lives.  They endeavored to honor their ‘departed’ loved one and serve others in his or her name.  Choosing to focus on higher energy emotions – day by day – made these people feel better.  Forgiveness primarily benefits the forgiver.

Forgiving does not imply condoning the murder, or not wanting justice.  It does mean having compassion for an obviously imbalanced person.  Most importantly, it allows you to release anger, bitterness, and excessive focus on revenge.  When carried around for years, those lower energy emotions hurt you, not the murderer. 

There’s a fine line here so examining your emotions may be the best litmus test.  It’s normal to desire justice and protect others from the murderer.   But you don’t want the murder to define who you are during rest of your earthly visit.

Your loved ones certainly would not want that either.  From their greater perspective of reality, they can understand why things unfolded as they did.  They can learn and grow from the experience, and want you to do the same.

In addition, your lower energy emotions can interfere with you connecting with your loved ones now.  Their new abode is characterized by love, joy, peace, appreciation, enthusiasm, and other magnificent energies / ways of being.  If yours are overly focus on the opposite of those, you won’t be on the same wavelength and feel their real presence now.

One tool to assist with this is the Heal & Transform Your Suffering technique that I created.  Deep relaxation and visualization can help you better understand the situation from a higher perspective.  You may remember why you, while planning this earthly visit, possibly agreed to participate in this scenario.

Here’s the answer.  (But it only can transform you when you know it deep inside.)  You knew your heart would feel broken.  However, you also knew there would be huge opportunities for growth, learning, and service.  You remembered the following:
a. no one really dies since we each are forever beings of spirit / energy / awareness

b. you cannot be separate from dear ones even though it appears that way after physical death

c. your time on earth is but a blink of an eye in the span of eternity; as such, very temporary suffering is well worth the possible growth and blessings

d. big challenges can serve as a wake-up call, a spiritually-transformative experience that help you remember who you are and why you are here.

8. You don’t have to wait until your body dies to visit with ‘departed’ loved ones.
Many people want to have ‘just one more contact’ with loved ones who graduated from earth-school.  You can visit with them, both here and in the hereafter, since love is eternal.  Two ways to increase the chances of feeling their presence right now are:

• Read and take action steps described in article #9 Visiting ‘Departed’ Loved Ones Now. 
• Use the Facilitated After-Death Contact session. This has helped many people sense the very real presence of their loved ones who have crossed over.
• In addition, technology being designed at the University of Arizona should allow you to communicate with your ‘deceased’ loved ones in the future.  This may sound impossible, but so did cell phones, computers, and other electronic devices that we now take for granted.  To learn more, visit SoulPhone.org.

9. Your loved one wants you to be happy now.
When a loved one crosses over by murder, some people consider suicide so they can be with their ‘departed’ again.  Those feelings usually indicate how much those on earth want to stop the pain and suffering.  Don’t think you are going crazy if you have an occasional and vague suicidal thought.  But do take it very seriously if you find yourself thinking more about how, when, and where you would attempt suicide.  Don’t keep your feelings a secret!  Share them with trusted loved ones, counselor, minister, and / or health care team.

Your postmaterial loved ones are very near and wants you to enjoy life again.  They can feel your emotions and are urging you to awaken to the great news that life and love continue beyond death.  Knowing there’s meaning and timing behind all life’s events can help you feel more acceptance and peace.  Enjoying your life fully on earth while you can will fulfill your missions, honor your ‘departed’ loved ones, and assist continued relationships with them now.

10. Benefit from loving support and wise information. This is the time to ask for help and lean on others. After you’ve regained your center, you can pay it forward and help others.  Consider joining a love-based, open-minded church or spiritual center that offers wisdom, fellowship, and ways to serve others.  Unity, Unitarian-Universalist, and Centers for Spiritual Living are among my favorites.

If the person whose human shell was murdered was a child of any age, Helping Parents Heal provides support and strategies for family members to heal and transform.  There are many local chapters plus online meetings.  I highly recommend joining a group and actively participating.

Greater Reality Living groups – online and locally – are another source of afterlife evidence, support, and finding kindred spirits.  You can also use the resources listed at the end of this article.

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Over time, internalizing the information above and taking action steps helps most people realize their postmaterial loved ones are very much alive, well, and near.  You can come to understand that – no matter how they passed on – they are happy, peaceful, and living in magnificent realms.  A high level response when the body of a loved one is killed is to focus on those high energy emotions, moment by moment.

Doing this won’t totally remove all your grief and pain overnight.  But it can lighten it over time.  In addition, you now have an opportunity to transmute your suffering into personal growth and loving service to others.  And those are the biggest reasons souls volunteer to visit earth and temporarily go through such pain: to grow, learn, serve, remember their true nature, enjoy life, and expand love and peace in our world.

The more you can do that, the more you will experience a heavenly state now and always – no matter what is going on around you.  It’s not easy, but it is possible.

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Thank you for telling others about this article!  Your life, and that of others around you, will be more enriched when you:  

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Hugs, love, blessings, and let it shine!
Mark

Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
author, lecturer, counselor, and holistic chiropractic physician; spokesperson, research assistant, and strategic planner for the SoulPhone Project; founder of Greater Reality Living, Healing, Helping, and Sharing Programs

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Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is a master’s clinical psychologist, holistic chiropractic physician, and clinical nutritionist.  He has also helped others in pastoral counseling and suicide prevention / education settings.  His goal is to help you know and show that this earthly experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst eternity. 

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I created this article while ‘wearing the hat’ of a clinician, counselor, and educator.  My statements are based upon some scientific research; much clinical and experiential evidence; my personal experiences; and my best current understandings.  This program does not reflect my roles with the SoulPhone Project since those require solid scientific data for all statements.