by Mark Pitstick MA, DC
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Note: If you already know the following information scroll down to the article title in maroon below the seven asterisks. However, I strongly recommend reading this introduction until you really ‘own’ it. In addition, post The Great News where you’ll see it every day.
Over the last 15 years, and especially during 2019 – 2024, data from a series of experiments at the University of Arizona have definitively demonstrated scientifically that life continues after physical death. This research was conducted by Gary E. Schwartz PhD, former professor at Harvard and Yale, and pioneer in the fields of behavioral medicine and energy healing.
Dr. Schwartz is assisted in this work by a team of electrical engineers, software developers, research assistants, evidential mediums, and postmaterial luminaries at the Laboratory for Advances in Consciousness and Health. (To learn more about the SoulPhone Project and lab, visit LACH.Arizona.edu. To learn about postmaterial luminaries, see article #31 at SoulProof.com)
The Demo SoulSwitch is a binary (Yes / No) SoulSwitch device that postmaterial persons (the so-called ‘deceased’) can use to answer questions, verify their identity, and begin providing information to help many people and our planet. This device should be ready for beta testing by the summer of 2024. After sessions with project volunteers and larger donors, we will share data that scientifically demonstrates life continues after bodily death. However, this ‘reveal’ will initially occur as an ‘incremental trickle’ versus a ‘sudden splash’. Over time and under optimal conditions, we will gradually amplify how widely this news is shared.
Likewise, demonstrations of this technology will occur in a stepwise fashion. We anticipate, but cannot guarantee, that full announcements and demonstrations will occur by spring 2025. These decisions were made in April 2024 after many strategic planning discussions with core project team members. The many factors involved are much more complex than you might imagine.
See articles #1, 60, and 115 for an overview of the scientific, clinical, and experiential evidence that indicates – with 99.9% certainty – that consciousness survives bodily death. This collective evidence also shows – with very high degrees of certainty – The Great News that you and everyone else:
- continue to live after your earthly body dies.
- can interact with ‘departed’ loved ones now and after you pass on.
- are integral, infinite, eternal, and beloved parts of Source Energy now and always.
- receive guidance and support from angels, guides, master teachers, etc.
- are sacredly interconnected with all people, animals, and nature.
- have special purposes for having this earthly experience now.
- may manifest in other simultaneous time / space realities now and after bodily death.
- have everything you need to enjoy an optimal earthly experience – no matter what your past or current circumstances.
- can find meaning, as well as opportunities for growth and service, amidst your toughest changes and challenges.
- co-create how heavenly your life feels – whether living on earth or elsewhere – by your predominant thoughts, words and actions.
- can likely use SoulPhone technology in the future to communicate with postmaterial loved ones and access wisdom from luminaries who can help us heal our world.
Statements #1, 2, and 11 are based on definitive scientific research. The other statements are based on: (a) clinical research: near-death experiences, past life memories and regressions, perinatal experiences, life between lives sessions, shared crossings, terminal lucidity cases, and deathbed visions; and (b) evidencefrom firsthand experiences: after-death communications, out-of-body experiences, spiritually transformative experiences, electronic voice projection / instrumental transcommunication, and other ways of knowing.
This is, obviously, a new and exciting era for humanity. When understood and internalized – even just a bit – The Great News can help you make the shift:
- FROM thinking, believing, and acting as if your time on earth is unfair, meaningless, cruel, and ends with cessation of consciousness or the possibility of endless suffering.
- TO thinking, believing, and acting as if this earthly experience is a totally meaningful, safe, and magnificent adventure amidst forever.
Conscious language can help you adopt a greater reality perspective and live based on the second bulleted worldview. And that, in turn, can help you create the greatest life YOU have envisioned, fulfill your purposes for being on earth, serve others, and enjoy a magnificent journey. In the pursuit of using more conscious / accurate terms, l:
- Will use the term ‘YOU’ to describe the totality of your energy / being. Your real self may manifest in different spacetime ways simultaneously since only approximately 50% of your consciousness is needed to have an earthly experience. The term ‘YOU’ recognizes both of these possibilities.
- Won’t use the terms ‘die, departed, deceased, or dead’ without single quotation marks since those have strongly entrenched and erroneous meanings indicating an end of life.
- Will use the terms ‘bodily death’ and ‘death of the earthly form’ to remind you that only the earth-suit dies. The rest – all the intelligence, love, personality, memories, preferences, sense of humor, and much more – continues living in other parts of the field of all possibilities.
- Will use the terms changed worlds, passed on, transitioned and others that aptly describe a continuation of consciousness after bodily death.
- Will primarily refer to those who have passed on as postmaterial persons. That term recognizes the points in #3. I also will use soul, consciousness, essence, and awareness.
- Will primarily refer to ‘physical humans living on earth’ as material persons. Why? Because those terms within single quotation marks may apply to postmaterial persons. That is, they can have physicality, visit earth, and are still human in meaningful ways.
- Will use the terms lower versus higher energies, emotions, and ways of being. These descriptors are not critical, judgmental, or subjective; rather, they are based on objective measures by, for example, David Hawkins PhD, MD author of Power Versus Force. He and other researchers found that higher-energy emotions of peace, joy, and love calibrate at 600, 540, and 500 respectively. Conversely, lower-energy emotions of anger, fear, and guilt calibrate at 150, 100, and 30. To be clear, energy / consciousness is who and what you really are, not just how you are feeling. Your predominant energies create the quality of your life and the nature of your earthly or other time-space experience.
- Will use single quotations marks with words such as ‘lose and fail’. The Great News and collective afterlife evidence can expand your worldview about what seem to be losses and failures. We can’t accurately judge the big picture of life – what is lost or how we failed – with our limited human senses.
Note: To recognize and respect different genders and sexual identifications, I will alternate using ‘he’ or ‘she’ and related pronouns. Depending on a person’s orientation, one, both, or neither of those may apply.
The free articles and radio shows mentioned are available at SoulProof.com. To learn more about the collective afterlife evidence and The Great News, read Soul Proof, The Afterlife Evidence, Greater Reality Living (co-authored with Dr. Schwartz) and The Big Picture of Life (for ages 10 – 16 written with Schwartz and Katta Mapes MA, MEd). To experience expanded states of consciousness to optimally heal and transform your life, use audio sessions under Shop at SoulProof.com.
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When a Child Changes Worlds
I am very sorry about the bodily death of a child in your life and all the pain and sadness that accompanies that. You could remain stuck in lower energy emotions – anger, guilt, hopelessness, etc. – for the rest of your life and no one could blame you.
However, there’s another choice . . . how you react to this – or any other change – is a moment to moment choice.
Bereaved parents can, over time, become shining light parents. The latter term invites you to more deeply realize that your child is a shining light right now. She is very likely enjoying unfathomable levels of high energy emotions: love, peace, joy, enthusiasm, gratitude, hope, and clarity.
Shining light parents focus as much as possible on that great news. They stay alert – day by day and moment to moment – to upgrade their emotions of sadness, anger, guilt and pain to higher energy ones.
You can do the same! Many amazing parents have demonstrated this. Some keys to moving in that direction include . . .
1. Remember that life does not end when the human form dies. Yes, his physical body died, but that outer shell was much less than 1% of who and what he truly is. The rest – all the love, energy, sense of humor, intelligence, preferences, memories, and much more – continues into the next phase of forever. The belief that his life ended after physical death is an optical delusion caused by your limited brain and sense organs.
Gary E. Schwartz PhD, former Harvard and tenured Yale professor, is now a senior professor at the University of Arizona and director of the Laboratory for Advances in Consciousness and Health. Schwartz says that – based on the collective clinical and scientific evidence – the terms death and die are no longer appropriate because they signify an end.
Here’s one way to better realize how very little of reality your five senses can capture. Life is comprised, most fundamentally, of energy and information. If all the info-energy that exists in our world were the height of the Empire State Building, the portion the average human can detect would only be the thickness of a coat of paint.
My books Soul Proof and Greater Reality Living (co-authored with Dr. Schwartz) share much scientific, clinical, and firsthand experience evidence that you and everyone else continue to live after the human body dies. As a bereaved parent, you now have more motivation to learn about the other 99.9% of who you and your child really are. To learn more, visit SoulProof.com and SoulPhone.org.
2. Know that you will see each other again, and likely can do so now. Evidence from near-death experiences, authentic mediums, and life between lives research strongly agrees: you will see your postmaterial loved ones again when you transition from earth.
What’s more, at least 75% of bereaved parents report one or more meaningful after-death communications (ADCs) involving the ordinary or more subtle senses. These perceptions can occur while awake or dreaming. Evidential ADCsshow that at least some of these experiences are more than just your imagination or wishful thinking. Stay alert for unexplainable events, lucid dreams, and alterations in electrical devices.
For more information about ADCs, read articles #9 Visiting ‘Departed’ Loved Ones NOW, and #28 After Death Communications.
To further increase the chances of having an ADC, avoid using inaccurate phrases such as ‘I lost my child’ or ‘my child died.’ Instead, upgrade your statements to: my child’s body died; he transitioned back Home; she changed worlds; my child graduated from earth-school.
After her son Aaron was killed in the Iraq war, Sarah began having vivid dreams of visiting with him. She sometimes saw him through her peripheral vision, but saw nothing when she turned to see more clearly. She knew nothing about ADCs and thought she was losing her mind. After a friend loaned her my book Soul Proof, Sarah was greatly comforted to learn that her experiences could be visits from her son.
As described in article #9, you can use Facilitated After-Death Contact sessions to increase the likelihood of perceiving your child now. I’ve shared this technique with over a thousand bereaved parents via in-person and virtual group meetings. Many of them experience their child’s living presence during the first session. Others find more success with practice and using the technique at home.
Finally, while it’s a few years away depending on funding, scientific technology will quite probably allow communication with your child. To learn more, visit SoulPhone.org.
3. Realize your child was likely an evolved soul. Whether housed in five, or ninety-five-year-old bodies, people change worlds when they have completed their earthly missions. Your child may have been young in earth years, but has an essence that is ancient. Children sometimes leave clues that their time on earth will be short. They usually are more loving and compassionate than most children their age. For example, one young man was a varsity athlete, homecoming king, and president of his class. Even so, he befriended other students who were ‘geeks, learning disabled, and not popular.’
Those who pass on at a young age often have a sense of urgency to experience all they can while they are on this planet. Some children have drawn pictures of themselves flying up into the sky and being greeted by angels. Many parents have reported that their children seemed to look through them at times and were different from other kids. Not long before transitioning from earth, some children ask their parents: ‘will you be OK if I die? When I go through this list with bereaved parents and family members, nearly everyone in the room shakes their head affirmatively.
4. Know that this earthly experience is very brief. When you are deeply grieving, a day can seem like a year. That’s why it’s important to put things in perspective by taking a big picture view of how long you suffer and whether it is worth the potential benefits.
The human brain can’t conceive of there being no limit to time – no beginning and no end – but the following Hindu analogy might help. Imagine a solid granite mountain six miles high, six miles wide, and six miles long. Every one hundred years, a dove with a silk scarf in its beak flies over and lightly brushes the top. Consider how long it would require for that process to wear the mountain completely flat. That, it is said by wise teachers in that tradition, is just the first day of forever.
On the other hand, your time in earth-school is extremely short. Evidence from Life Between Lives research indicates that even ninety-years on Earth is relatively very brief – about the time it takes to play a hand of poker in ‘spirit world’. Another metaphor is gained by watching waves crash against large rocks. Notice how briefly the individual droplets hang in the air, then drop back into the oceanic oneness.
Compared to eternity, purportedly said the Buddha, and contemporary teachers like David Bohm PhD, that’s how transient your earth-experience is. Relatively speaking, just a blink of an eye in the span of eternity.
Think of all the growth and service – for you and others – that has already arisen from the death of your child’s physical body. And there is likely much more to come. Remembering the great news in #1 – 3 above, is your transient suffering worth it for the growth, learning, and service?
5. Consider the possibility that you and your child are experiencing other realities now. Terms for this concept include bilocation, multilocation, parallel realities, and simultaneous realities. There is some clinical evidence – as well as theoretical physics and mathematical models – indicating that at least some people can have more than this earthly experience simultaneously. See article #75 Multilocation: Are You Having Simultaneous Life Experiences Now? to learn more.
This view holds that only about 25% of your energy is needed to have an earthly experience. The rest can manifest in other times and places as formed or formless beings. If this is true, you and your child may be in another realm together right now. You two might be watching impassively, as if watching a movie, your struggling earth-bound versions and cheering you on to remember the big picture of life.
6. Create meaning for your ‘departed’ loved one’s life. One way to feel more peace and joy is to honor your child’s life in some way. Some parents help the needy in their child’s name or start a scholarship. Others help start a HelpingParentsHeal.org or GreaterRealityLiving.com group. Some parents work to prevent further needless injuries from drunk drivers, preventable accidents, or medical treatment abuses. The Ask Your Soul technique uses deep relaxation and imagery to access your inner wisdom about how you might create more meaning after a loved one’s body dies.
One mother was still grieving deeply three years after her son’s passing and didn’t know if she was going to make it. Before choosing suicide, she decided to help at the local homeless shelter. Every time she handed a meal to a needy person in need, she visualized her son’s face and mentally repeated his name. It was a triple win: she transmuted her pain and suffering into more joy and peace, she helped others, and her son was, no doubt, elated. She no longer considers suicide to be a good option.
7. Know that God didn’t take your child away. During a break during my years in theology school, I toured the east coast on my motorcycle. One day, I saw a man standing by himself at the end of a dock by the ocean. Something urged me to talk with him; I understood why as he told me his story: ‘I used to be a Sunday School teacher and deacon at our church. I believed everything they taught—hook, line, and sinker. Then my son died. Now, I think it’s all a bunch of BS. I don’t believe in any God or afterlife.’
Some parents understandably want nothing to do with religion or churches after their child changes worlds. Few are satisfied with traditional platitudes such as: “It was God’s will; God works in mysterious ways; or – my personal least favorite – God wanted your daughter to be with Him.”
Avoid getting caught up in anger toward past inaccurate religious teachings. Ancient personified images of God serve no one, especially when the body of your child dies. Release archaic notions about a huge bearded guy in the sky who decides when and how someone dies.
Instead, expand your understanding of God / Universe / the Light as the source of love, wisdom, joy, peace, creativity, and compassion. Much evidence shows that you and everyone else are integral parts of this phenomenon right now and always. The more you glimpse the big picture of life, the more fair and loving it appears.
8. You are never alone and have everything you need to survive this. Much evidence indicates that you are always supported, assisted, and guided within and from all around. Depending on your religious beliefs / spiritual perspective, or lack thereof, this unseen help may be seen as:
a.) a support team of angels, guides, master teachers, and soul mates
b.) higher energy assistance
c.) info-energy that is always accessible in a unified and interconnected Universe
I look at it all three ways but, whatever your model, know that you are never alone. The movie Talking to Heaven based on the book by medium James Van Praagh contains one of the best depictions I’ve seen of this. (Watch the film and you’ll know which scene I’m talking about.)
In addition, you have everything you need within to handle all of life’s changes and challenges with style. I know it may not seem that way at times, but that’s one reason why we, as timeless beings of energy, choose adversity: to dig down deep, learn the depth of our potentials, and discover how magnificent life really is. Having a child pass on is extremely difficult. However, it is a new moment in which you can better understand and demonstrate who you are and what you are capable of.
9. Be aware that your child’s passing can help him, you, and others evolve. Friedrich Nietzsche famously said, “That which does not killus makes us stronger.” More than a century later, I would modify that statement to: ‘That which does not kill me can make me stronger, and so can that which kills my physical body.’ The italicized words point out two important distinctions.
First, depending on many factors, profound adversity may or may not make a person stronger. In my experience, choosing to find the blessings and share them with others is a primary factor in making you stronger. Secondly, tough challenges can make you stronger whether your earthly body dies or not. If you continue living on earth, you can be wiser for another degree from the University of Hard Knocks. If you pass on, your real self can take any higher consciousness and strength of spirit into the next realm.
Just imagine how wise, loving, and compassionate you can become after struggling, searching, and sharing the blessings. The death of your child’s earthly form can awaken you to the fullness of love and life that usually escapes the five senses. It can trigger a spiritually transformative experience (STE) that confers greater joy for you and others.
After a child changes worlds, some parents try to numb themselves with alcohol, recreational drugs, and / or prescription drugs. Some think that gambling, affairs, divorce, excess material possessions, or other distractions will help them not feel the pain. Others try to stay so busy that they don’t have time to think about what happened.
While these approaches might help short term, they aren’t good long-term strategies.
If possible, sit with the pain, breathe it in, and experience it head on instead of trying to escape it. Heidi, a bereaved mom whose transgender son left this world by laying on train tracks, wrote me with a way forward for all who encounter loss and grief.
“Finn’s journey has been a portal of awakening for me, allowing for a deepening of trust for the unfolding of the Divine. When I swirled in guilt or let his dramatic exit define me, I felt more disconnected from my love for him. But as I leaned into the sharp points of the grief, I found that my love connection with Finn expanded further than when he was embodied. Easy choice.
A couple days after he left his body, I heard the distant sounds of a train. As it came closer and the sounds increased, I was in such pain and tension imagining Finn’s body laying across the rails. I just let go and let the train sounds rumble through my body.
In the height of that moment, I felt the innocence of the train bringing goods from one place to another. I felt the innocence of Finn’s pain and his desire to be free from it. I felt my own innocence of wanting my picture of Finn’s life to be instead of the unknowable way of the Divine.”
I stand in awe of Heidi’s evolved way of handling what would understandably crush some parents. She leaned into the sharp points of grief and just let go. She honored each part of this horrible drama and trusted the great way of life. I shared Heidi’s writing in the Helping Parents Heal newsletter and with others. I am sure it will help many people.
My book The Eleven Questions can help you move forward – not in spite of, but because of – adversity. I interviewed eleven top consciousness experts and asked them what they say to parents whose children passed on. Our answers, and your own, can develop your spiritual muscles and make your life a work of art.
Several years ago, I received an email from Marla who had three children pass on. She shared details of how and when each one transitioned and then wrote, “And now I have just one question.” I expected an angry inquiry about how a loving and fair universe / God could allow such a thing. Instead, she asked: “How can I help others who have gone through this pain?” I was so inspired that I arranged a meeting with her. She is now co-leading a Helping Parents Heal group in Tampa and assisting the national organization. Hers is a perfect example of how adversity can help you grow and learn, and inspire others to do the same.
10. Take optimal care of yourself. The death of a loved one’s earthly vehicle is a huge stressor to the body and mind. This may especially be the case if you were already out of balance due to post-pregnancy nutritional deficiencies, poor health, or chronic stress. As discussed in my book Radiant Wellness, you can begin getting well again by using basic self-care steps.
My top recommendations include: proper rest, exercise, real food diet, whole food supplements, meditation, prayer, and time in nature. Centering practices to help are: yoga, reading, inspirational movies, gardening, service to others, involvement with enlightened church / spirituality groups, and playing with pets. The Holistic Breathing Technique is an especially powerful way to release old wounds, increase oxygenation, and release chronic muscular tension.
Don’t feel overwhelmed by all these self-care possibilities. Start with a few simpler ones and soon the extra energy and benefits will motivate you to do more.
These self-care practices help you internalize the great news that life and love do not end after bodily death. Reading, talking about, and intellectually knowing the afterlife evidence are important. However, it’s most transformative when you transfer that knowledge from your head to your heart and deeply know it’s all good, it’s all God.
11. Use a holistic care team. Assembling loving and wise care givers is an important key to journeying from a bereaved to shining light parent. Find an integrative medical doctor who understands the power of natural healing approaches and uses medications only when absolutely necessary. Whenever possible, avoid prescription drugs because of potential negative side-effects such as homicidal and suicidal thoughts / behavior, the possibility of addiction, and delaying healthy grieving.
Use as many of the following as possible to fine-tune yourself: counseling, specific spinal and cranial adjustments, acupuncture, deep tissue massage, and homeopathy. Energy balancing work and evidential mediums are also excellent resources. I highly recommend a nutritional healing program such as Nutrition Response Testing or Applied Kinesiology to evaluate the brain and hormonal system. A practitioner can help you strengthen imbalances with a real food diet, self-care practices, and whole food supplements from Standard Process, MediHerb, and other companies.
Mary was considering suicide after her child crossed over and came to me for help. I discovered that her brain and adrenal glands were exhausted from the ordeal. Within weeks of being on a nutritional healing program, she started to smile again and realized that suicide was a poor choice. Years later during her wellness visits, we celebrate her decision to live; so do her husband and other two children.
12. Realize that physical death is a ticket back Home. How can a person transition to the really real place except by what, from a limited human perspective, appears to be a tragedy? Illness, accident, unknown causes, murder, and suicide are the five primary ways a person moves into the next phase of life. For further information about the latter two causes, see article #4 When a Loved One’s Human Form Dies by Suicide and #27 When a Loved One’s Earthly Body Is Murdered.
(Again, note the different and admittedly cumbersome, but more accurate terms used in the title of these two articles. I encourage you to upgrade your language from ‘he died by suicide’ or ‘she was murdered’ since just the outer shell dies. Your child is still very much alive and well.)
Whatever the means of passing, your loved one didn’t want to hurt or leave you. If discord between you two preceded her passing, that was likely the result of her pain and imbalance. Treasure your happy times together in the past and look forward to new ones in the future.
Elaine heard me speak at a Helping Parents Heal group and sent this note several months later: “I am reading Soul Proofas I sit next to my son’s gravesite on the first anniversary of his passing. The last year has been very difficult. Today, though, I feel a sense of peace as I sit with him. I learned a term at your presentation that has helped me immensely: he is still alive, he just dropped his earthly body. I now know that what is beneath the ground is just a physical shell that he no longer needs. His soul lives on in Heaven, he is happy, and I will definitely see him again. Thank you!”
Knowing this doesn’t take away all the pain and sadness, but – as Elaine discovered – it definitely lightens it and accelerates recovery
13. Consider the possibility that you and your child agreed – before coming to earth – to potentially participate in this scenario. Some evidence indicates that you and your child entered into soul contracts to possibly be part of this painful slice of life. Why, you might reflexively respond, would anyone ever volunteer to suffer so greatly?
The short answer is so you and your child could grow and serve others. This brief earthly experience is very much like a play or movie. Your child needed someone to play the role of parent during this brief earthly experience and you agreed.
Depending on a number of factors, your life may seem like a senseless nightmare right now. But someday – and it may be sooner than you think – you can better understand the big picture of life perspective behind all this.
Elizabeth Boisson, co-founder of Helping Parents Heal, believes her son Morgan’s transition was designed before this lifetime. Granted, her earthly self would never have chosen that in a million years. But her eternal aspect, and that other family members, may have chosen that course of events so others could be helped. Within a week of Morgan’s passing, Elizabeth was looking for ways to assist other bereaved parents and family members.
That is what I call a spiritual set-up, a pre-planned tragedy with wonderful potentials despite the immense suffering and pain. To learn more about this very important topic, see article #25 Pre-Birth Planning: Did I REALLY Choose All This?
14. Know your child wants you to be happy now. Your dear one is likely very near and wants you to enjoy life again. She can feel your emotions and is urging you to awaken to the great news that life continues after the earthly body dies. Some parents are hobbled by guilt after their child graduates from earth school. Now that you know there can be meaning to all life’s events, perhaps you can stop blaming yourself for anything you did or didn’t do or say.
Many details had to align for the timing and way your loved one transitioned. Please enjoy your life fully on earth while you can. That will honor your child and allow her to best experience the next phase of her life.
I asked Evan, a medical radiologist, if talking about his son’s passing made him feel sad. “No,” he said, “That would interfere with how much I feel his presence now.” He purposely chose to focus on higher energy emotions such as gratitude for their time together, joy they will see each other again, and greater meaning by serving others in his son’s name. That’s a perfect example of reaching for the highest feeling thought each moment and every day. And that, my friends, is a huge key to living in the now moment and remaining awakened amidst life’s biggest changes and challenges.
To learn how to do what Evan did, see article #41 The A.R.T. Technique.
Part of becoming happy again is accepting conflicting emotions as you grieve. The bodily death of a loved one is so shocking that emotions usually felt separately can be experienced simultaneously. One example is feeling relief and, at the same time, total sadness. This is most common when a child has suffered with a chronic illness and/or addiction. Parents of addicted children who pass on often report missing them and also resenting them for all they went through.
Please do not feel guilty about feeling relief, resentment, anger, or any other emotion. After dropping the earthly body and limiting brain, your child can see more of life. With this less obstructed view of the universe, she understands more of the underlying factors. As such, she will not judge you for your lower energy emotions; she now understands why you might feel all these emotions and more.
15. Benefit from loving support. This is a time to ask for help and lean on others for a while. Join an open-minded, loving, and service-based church or organization that offers spiritual wisdom, kindred spirits, and opportunities to serve others. (I personally have most enjoyed Unity, Unitarian-Universalist, Centers for Spiritual Living, United Church of Christ, Buddhist, and Native American approaches. But each person is unique so find what works best for you.)
As mentioned, HelpingParentsHeal.org provides support, networking, enlightened perspectives, and strategies for healing and transformation. This group discusses the afterlife evidence and all the hope and inspiration that accompany that. I strongly recommend attending a local group and online meetings. I also highly encourage you to use the free Caring Listeners resource.
16. Consider the following answers to commonly asked questions and take action steps that feel right for you . . .
Q: How do I know for sure that my child’s soul / essence / energy is still alive?
A: A vast amount of scientific, clinical, and firsthand experience evidence now clearly shows that physical death is not the end of life. This evidence is presented in my book and documentary film Soul Proof, and the Greater Reality Livingbook co-authored by me and Gary E. Schwartz PhD. These books contain many referenced findings by leading scientists, university professors, physicians, and psychologists who agree that the question of after-death survival has been fully and affirmatively answered.
Q: Why did my son die at such a young age?
A: The bottom line? It was time for him to move into the next phase of forever. A longer answered is woven throughout this article.
Q: Did she suffer before passing on?
A: Some evidence suggests that consciousness detaches when death is imminent. As such, pain and fear may not have registered as much as you think. Medically, it is called physiological shock. Spiritually / energetically, it’s a reminder that one’s life force exists independently of the body and brain.
I’ve interviewed numerous people who were shot, stabbed, or fell from great heights. All of them said the same thing: it was like they were punched and then they didn’t feel anything. Even though her physical body may have looked afraid and in pain, the other 99.9% of who and what she is was likely watching it impassively from above. Her awareness / spirit likely had one foot in the next realm and was already glimpsing the peace, joy, and love therein.
Q: Where is my child now?
A: Consciousness / soul is not restricted by space and time. As such, he might be standing right next to you and, at the same time, enjoying several other life experiences in the field of all possibilities. Read point #5 above again to better understand the possibility of simultaneous realities. She could be enjoying various slices of life right now from different vantage points including Heaven / Home.
Q: Is he alright?
A: He is much more than alright. His current abode is characterized by joy, love, peace, gratitude, enthusiasm, and much more.
We have good indications of what it feels like to drop the body from ten thousand people who had documented near-death experiences. Many people who were clinically dead describe it this way: recall your one hundred best days on earth – your happiest, healthiest, and most energetic. Now multiple that by one million and you get an idea of how good it feels to enter the Light again. Or, more accurately, how wonderful it feels to remember that you always were and will be an integral and beloved part of Source.
Q: Is she still with me? I’m having fleeting experiences of her while awake and dreaming that give me more peace and hope.
A: Those may be actual after death communications, thus the feelings of peace and hope. As mentioned, a very high percentage of bereaved parents report meaningful perceptions of their kids. To learn more, read article #28 After-Death Communications.
Q: How can I communicate with my son who passed on?
A: To learn more about how you can do this, read article #9: Visiting With Your “Departed” Loved Ones Now. To increase the probability of enjoying their presence, use the Facilitated After-Death Contact technique. Another way to contact him is to work with a highly skilled medium who has been independently evaluated and found to be reputable. To learn more, see article #6 Evidential Mediums.
Q: Why is it so painful when loved ones pass on?
A: It’s natural to miss the physical body, hugs, voice, smile, and so on. Most people feel it’s worth all the love, memories, and great times – especially since you will see each other again. If you didn’t feel sad, you wouldn’t be human.
Q: How can I survive the holidays?
A: Be prepared for the first set of holidays and anniversaries since those can be the toughest. One way to survive the suffering is to choose – moment by moment – to focus on:
– Appreciation for the time you spent together and wonderful memories
– Realization that you will see your loved one again
– Transforming yourself positively to honor her life, create more meaning to her life
and passing, and be more on the same wavelength
The first letters of these three steps spell ART. You can make your life a work of art when you move your mind / heart onto a higher energy subject each time you feel sad, lonely, discouraged, etc. (To learn more, see article #41 The A.R.T. Technique)
You now stand at a fork in life’s road. Will you mainly focus on sadness, loss, pain, guilt, blame, anger, etc.? Or will you instead feel gratitude for your time together, excitement about seeing each other again, and resolve to create meaning to their life? Will you look for opportunities to better grow and serve others?
Please remember that your child is very much alive, well, and near. He is happy, peaceful, and living fully in the here and now moment . . . and wants you to be the same way now.
Resources for Optimal Healing and Transformation
I hope you regularly use the following resources and share them with others.
Helping Parents Heal website home page: HelpingParentsHeal.org
Note: there are many resources on this site so please take the time to familiarize yourself. For example, under the Affiliate Groups tab, you’ll find resources for siblings, dads, special interest groups, and more.
Caring Listener and Affiliate Leader interviews:HelpingParentsHeal.org/YouTubeVideosAffiliateLeaderCaringListenerInterviews
Facebook: Facebook.com/Groups/HelpingParentsHeal
Instagram: Instagram.com/HelpingParentsHeal/
YouTube: YouTube.com/c/ElizabethBoissonHPH
Linktree: Linktr.ee/HelpingParentsHeal
HPH Book: Life to Afterlife: Helping Parents Heal, The Book
HPH Movies: https://www.helpingparentsheal.org/movies/
Join the Helping Parents Heal Facebook Group to access all the online and in-person events. There is a main group: www.facebook.com/groups/helpingparentsheal and hundreds of Affiliate Groups available.
Join a Local HPH Group: If there is no local group nearby to attend in-person meetings, you are welcome to join any HPH Affiliate group that offers online meetings. You can even consider starting one if that feels right for you. HelpingParentsHeal.org/AffiliateGroups
Talk with Caring Listeners: This free service is provided by parents who have gone through ‘the dark night of the soul’ and are now Shining Light Parents. They share what worked for them, listen with care, and suggest resources. HelpingParentsHeal.org/CaringListeners
Attend Online Meetings: Attend online meetings that are open to all HPH members; one or more HPH webinars are held on weekday evenings. Hear a variety of experts on afterlife, healing, and contacting your children. HelpingParentsHeal.org/Calendar
Watch Interviews with Affiliate Leaders and Caring Listeners: These parents share so much hope, inspiration, and practical steps for healing and transforming that it’s listed twice! HelpingParentsHeal.org/YouTubeVideosAffiliateLeaderCaringListenerInterviews
Read Articles at SoulProof.com/Articles to answer your biggest questions and provide holistic solutions for your toughest challenges. Most helpful for HPH members have been:
#1 Scientific Evidence That Bodily Death Is NOT the End of Life
#2 When a Child Changes Worlds
#4 When a Loved One Passes On by Suicide
#9 Visiting ‘Departed’ Loved Ones Now
#25 Pre-Birth Planning: Did I REALLY Choose All This?
#27 When a Loved One’s Earthly Body Is Murdered . . .
#60 Clinical Evidence That Life Continues After Physical Death
#78 Why Did God Take My Loved One?!
#82 Journey FROM Deeply Grieving TO Shining Light
#93 For Bereaved Parents and Family Members
#108 Higher Energies, Emotions, and Ways of Being
#115 Firsthand Experience Evidence for Life After Death
Listen to Interviews with top experts about life and afterlife: guests interviewed include Wayne Dyer, Raymond Moody, Anita Moorjani, Brian Weiss, Michael Newton, Caroline Myss, Gary Schwartz, and other luminaries. One of the questions often asked was, “What do you say to parents with children who passed on?” SoulProof.com/Radio
Use Experiential Sessions from HPH classes:
1. Holistic Breathing Technique (#70) Start with this as directed for one month to release lower energies and emotions such as anger, hopelessness, guilt, and more. To access this video, visit: www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fu4b3tLnu8s
2. Ask Your Soul, Angels, and G.O.D. (#71) Add this session and continue (7a) as recommended. This one helps you access guidance and assistance from your higher self, your spiritual support team, and The Light. You can optimally heal, transform, serve others, and create more meaning to your child’s life. www.youtube.com/watch?v=MTXJLt4FlgU
3. Facilitated After Death Contact (#9) After a month of using #1 and two months of #2, you should feel more peaceful and clear. At that point, you’ll be more likely to sense your child’s living presence using this technique. www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHmMcbxVt48
4. Pre-Birth Planning (#25) This session allows you to explore whether your higher self may have chosen the possibility of adversity including the bodily death of your child. If so, what were your goals for planning that? How can you fulfill those and create more meaning from what appears to be – from a limited human perspective – a senseless tragedy? www.youtube.com/watch?v=BYfnwTbVPPU
Get Personalized Answers and Holistic Solutions: As long as my schedule allows, I will email brief but informative and resource-packed replies to parents, siblings, and other close family members member at no charge. Email me at mark@soulproof.com with your biggest questions and toughest challenges.
Note: My inexpensive audio products, books, and documentary film can help you optimally heal, transform, and discover silver linings to your child’s bodily death. If you cannot afford them, email me at mark@soulproof.com and we’ll send complimentary digital products.
This is a lot of information, so please start with one or two resources, then add more as you feel led to do so. Over time, these steps can help you immensely, as it did this mom:
“I discovered your life-transforming work through HPH and know it was divinely
guided. I continue to delve into your generous body of teachings and am practically
buzzing with each insight. Thank you for expanding my awareness of who I and
my daughter really are, and teaching about the greater reality.”
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Your life, and that of others around you, will be more enriched when you:
- read this article again within a few days so you really own it.
- discuss it with trusted family members and friends.
- take recommended action steps that seem right for you.
- share it with others who can use it.
Let it shine,
Mark
Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is an author, master’s level clinical psychologist, holistic chiropractic physician, frequent media guest, and webinar / workshop facilitator. He has also helped others in pastoral counseling and suicide prevention / education settings. Mark directs The Soul Phone Foundation, founded Greater Reality Living Groups, and assists research on the SoulPhone Project. To learn more about how Dr. Pitstick might help you, visit SoulProof.com/About.
Dr. Pitstick’s goal is to help you know and show– no matter what is happening to or around you – that this earthly experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst eternity. Visit SoulProof.com for free articles, newsletters, and radio interviews with top consciousness experts. Other resources include his very reasonably priced books, audio-products, and documentary film.
Note: Because of his many outreaches, Dr. Pitstick can no longer answer complex and/or multiple questions. However, he has created many resources to answer your biggest questions and provide holistic solutions for your toughest challenges . . .
FREE ARTICLES, RADIO SHOW, AND E-NEWSLETTERS
– Articles for Transformation and Healing (top tab Articles at SoulProof.com) address the most common questions, concerns, and challenges about life, death, and afterlife.
– Radio Shows (top tab Radio Shows at SoulProof.com) share his answers and those of top experts to life’s biggest questions: “Who am I? Why am I here? What happens after I die? Is there a God? Why is there so much suffering? Why do children die?” and others.
– E-Newsletters (sign up on any page at SoulProof.com)
AUDIO-PRODUCTS, BOOKS, AND DOCUMENTARY FILM
– Transformational Audio Products (see Shop at SoulProof.com) provide quality sessions at home for a fraction of the cost of an office visit. These CDs and digital audios use deep relaxation, visualization, breathwork, and/or other techniques to: access your inner wisdom, visit with “departed” loved ones, release old wounds and lower energy emotions, evaluate your pre-birth planning, have past life regressions, and other goals.
– Books and Documentary (Shop at SoulProof.com) provide information and strategies to help you more deeply realize and demonstrate that:
- you are a forever being of energy / consciousness
- the many wonderful benefits of realizing this
- how to reflect this great news in every aspect of your life — even when confronted with big challenges and changes
Webinars and Workshops: to learn about these, subscribe to newsletters at SoulProof.com and SoulPhone.org (Classes & Interviews at SoulProof.com)
Greater Reality Living Groups: these local and online groups share information from Dr. Pitstick, Dr. Gary Schwartz, and other experts on consciousness and holistic wellness topics. (Visit Greater Reality Living at SoulProof.com)
Coaching / Counseling Session: meet with Dr. Pitstick by Zoom to gain answers to your toughest questions and holistic solutions to your biggest challenges. (Shop at SoulProof.com)
Disclaimer: This information is not designed to replace medical or psychological care. Dr. Pitstick’s remarks are based on his personal and professional training and experience during forty-eight years of helping many thousands of people. Collective clinical, scientific, and experiential evidence supports some, but not all, of what he shares. Mark’s views may change over time, and he does not claim to have all the answers or the only answers.
Dr. Pitstick encourages you to consider this information and decide for yourself what makes the most sense. Note: the articles and other resources at his SoulProof.com site are NOT purely based on scientific research as is the SoulPhone Project.
