by Mark Pitstick MA, DC

If you’ve not already, please read . . .

  1. ‘The Great News‘ (article #19 at SoulProof.com/Articles)
  2. ‘Eight Developments for Widespread Conscious Living Now’ (#125)
  3. Greater Reality LIVING Program: Integrating ‘The 8 Developments’ Into Your Daily Life (#72)
  4. Greater Reality HEALING Program: Journeying FROM Deeply Grieving TO Brightly Shining (#82)

The evidence-based information and holistic resources outlined in these articles will help you to:

  • realize your true nature as an eternal being of consciousness / life-force / energy 
  • receive guidance and assistance from highly evolved energies and Source / The Light
  • heal old wounds, release lower energies, and update erroneous teachings
  • create the greatest life YOU have envisioned (YOU = your higher self / soul)
  • help others by sharing your greatest gifts
  • make our world a better place

As enough people do this, widespread personal and planetary change will naturally unfold. 

When a Loved One’s Earthly Form Is Dying

Watching the body of a loved one go through the process of dying can be difficult. 

(Did you notice how I stated that?  Your loved one isn’t dying, just her outer shell.  Over 99% of who and what she is continues to live after bodily death.  That’s very important to remember at this time.)

Even so, you may feel helpless about not being able to do more or prevent his passing.  You may feel angry toward yourself, your loved one, the health care team, or even the Creator and Sustain of All Life about what is happening.  You may notice several conflicting emotions at the same time.  For example, you may feel very sad that she is dying and, simultaneously, happy that her suffering is coming to an end.

Again, hopefully you deeply know that what is dying is just a very small part of who and what your beloved family, friend, or pet is.  That knowledge can make all the difference in how fully and quickly you reach acceptance and healing when a loved one changes worlds.

The dying process can be a powerfully transformative time for you, your family, and the person who is transitioning.  Much growth and many blessings await those who consciously experience life’s biggest change with peace, faith, and awareness.  Here are eleven points to remember:

1. Death is not an end. Much documented clinical, scientific, and experiential evidence strongly indicates that life does not end when the physical body dies. The Soul Proof book and documentary film and Greater Reality Living book share much of this convincing evidence.  I said it before, but it bears repeating: the physical body is much less than 1% of who and what your dying loved one really is.  The rest—all the energy, consciousness, memories, personality, love and more—continues on.

2. It’s normal to experience different emotions. Be prepared for an avalanche of feelings that you rarely experience occurring together during an earthly experience. You may feel lower energy emotions such as sadness, guilt, anger, and fear.  At the same time, you may feel higher energy emotions such as love, joy, peace, relief, and gratitude.  That may feel like a roller-coaster at first.  Meditation, prayer, quiet time in nature, and talking about it can help you release lower energy emotions so you can focus on higher ones.  See article #41 The A.R.T. Technique to assist this process.

3. Your loved one likely wants to talk about his transition. Imagine preparing to embark on a trip to a destination far away. Wouldn’t you want to talk about it?  Your loved one who is preparing to change worlds probably does too – even if he seems reticent to do so initially.  Women are usually more verbal than men, but most dying people want to discuss it.  Ask him how he feels, what is he thinking, what is he fearful of, and what is he excited about.  Ask what his afterlife beliefs were as a youth and what they are now.  Then really listen.  You will learn much and he will be able to process his emotions.

4. Being present during the physical death of a loved one can lessen your fear of death. Many family and friends who are present at the time of a dear one’s passing report feeling peace that occurs at the moment of death. They see the pain go away and the ego release.  They eventually notice the dying person cease to struggle and she relaxes into the process of graduating.  They often see a little smile form as the unneeded body is discarded.

Bodily death is like being born – only in reverse.  A new born has just arrived on earth after coming from the great beyond.  Those who pass on are returning Home.  Remembering this can make their and your transition into the next stage of life easier.

I and eleven consciousness experts – Raymond Moody, Caroline Myss, Anita Moorjani, Gary Schwartz, and others – discuss their understandings about this and other important topics about life in my book The Eleven Questions.  You also can hear my interviews with them for free at Radio Shows.

5. Create a joyful and peaceful environment. Play favorite music and movies. Put inspiring posters and artwork on the wall.  Laugh, cry, tell stories, share your hopes and fears.  Ask her what wonderful memories stand out during her life and then really listen.  Some people like to make audio or video recordings of these precious stories.

Create an awakened and loving space for your loved one to birth into the next phase of life.  It will also help you and other loved ones relax and realize death is an integral part of living.

6. Death isn’t contagious.  Unless your loved one has an infectious disease, it’s good to touch her.  Rub her feet and back, brush her hair, cuddle up beside her in bed, hold hands.  The dying person wants to be touched before she journeys from earth.  She isn’t gone yet.  Being with a dying person isn’t a spectator event—you’re not watching it on TV.  It is real life happening in real time, so treasure touching her.  Also, consider bringing in a massage therapist, Reiki, Healing Touch or other practitioner to release tension and ease discomfort.

7. He may see “the welcoming committee.”  As your loved one’s general health and mental clarity diminish, he may be able to see what was there all along: loved ones in spirit, angels, guides, and the Light.  In the past, some health care providers thought such patients were losing their minds.  But now most know the dying person is excited about sensing those who have come to journey with him.  Ask him about these visitors and listen.  To learn more about these ‘Death Bed Visits’, read Greater Reality Living.

8. You may have a ‘shared crossing’ experience.  It’s fairly common for family and friends of the dying person to feel the peace and joy that accompany glimpsing the Light.  You may see or feel entities who are there to assist her graduation to the next level.  The room may fill with light at the time of her passing.  You may feel “the peace that passes all understanding” near the time of physical death.  These gifts are there for those with open hearts and minds, especially if you can remain relaxed and present during the dying experience.  To learn more, visit Shared Crossing Project. 

9. Invite an evidential medium to help. An evidential medium can provide valuable insights about people and pets that have changed worlds before and relay their messages. This input can radically change the mood of everyone for the better.  Andy, my fiancé who is a medium and can see energy, was present when my dad was preparing to cross over.  She saw the soul of his grandmother whom dad helped when she was dying.  Andy was told by the grandma to ask dad about the icebox when he was a kid.  That simple question led to dad laughing and telling stories about his youth, and that’s literally how he spent his last waking hour on earth.  What a great way to go!  To find a good medium, see article #6 Evidential Mediums.

10. She may want to transition from earth while alone.   You’ve likely heard stories of loved ones who, after spending many hours with the dying person, finally went to the cafeteria or bathroom.  While they were gone, their loved one crossed over.  Some dying persons are more private and want to pass on while alone.  Others are worried about traumatizing their loved ones.  If family and friends aren’t ready to accept that the person is dying, she may transition while there is more peace and quiet. 

11. Say ‘see you later’ – not ‘good-bye.’ You can bless others by remembering that death is not an end. Your loved one completed his earth-school lessons, that’s all.  We all pass on sooner or later – it’s truly not a big deal.  Love and life continue after death . . . who knows what adventures you two will have in the future.  Forever is a very, very long time so there will be ample opportunities for enjoying each other’s company in other times and places.  

What’s more, you can likely enjoy a continuing but different relationship with your dear ones who have changed worlds. To learn more, see article #9: Visiting ‘Departed’ Loved Ones Now.  You can use the Facilitated After-Death Contacttechnique to increase the chances of sensing that your dear ones in spirit are indeed very much alive, well, and near.

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Thank you for telling others about this article!  Your life, and that of others around you, will be more enriched when you:  

  1. read the article again so you really know it.
     
  2. discuss with close family and friends to more deeply internalize it.
     
  3. take action steps that seem right for you.
     
  4. share it with others via social media, discussion groups, and other ways.

Hugs, love, blessings, and let it shine!
Mark

Mark Pitstick, MA, DC
author, lecturer, counselor, and holistic chiropractic physician; spokesperson, research assistant, and strategic planner for the SoulPhone Project; founder of Greater Reality Living, Healing, Helping, and Sharing Programs

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Mark Pitstick, MA, DC is a master’s clinical psychologist, holistic chiropractic physician, and clinical nutritionist.  He has also helped others in pastoral counseling and suicide prevention / education settings.  His goal is to help you know and show that this earthly experience is a totally safe, meaningful, and magnificent adventure amidst eternity. 

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Note: This article is intended as a reference source, not to replace professional treatment for physical, emotional, or mental problems.  The author disclaims any liability arising directly or indirectly from the voluntary use of action steps discussed in article. 

I created this article while ‘wearing the hat’ of a clinician, counselor, and educator.  My statements are based upon some scientific research; much clinical and experiential evidence; my personal experiences; and my best current understandings.  This program does not reflect my roles with the SoulPhone Project since those require solid scientific data for all statements.